QUIZ: Who Should Make the Guest List?

Who should be on my guest list? How do I decide who to eliminate? Don’t pull your hair out trying to figure it out!  Know that you are not alone.  These are two of the most frequently asked questions by clients during our initial consultation session. My answer is: the engaged couple along with both sets of parents should create their DREAM guest list. Eliminate no one but realize your parents and you may have some of the same people on their lists.  That’s okay. The next step is to have everyone put a star next to the guests who MUST be there and a triangle next to the ones you would really like to be there.

Create your master list by starting with the starred names, then based on the room left in your budget add triangle names.  Be sure to take triangle names from each person’s list to be fair.  In doing so, you will be less likely to be accused of being biased towards anyone. Most people know you are not purposely trying to hurt anyone’s feelings by excluding them but not having an unlimited budget means somebody will not receive an invitation. It has been my experience, clients using this method have an easier time creating their final guest lists.

In addition to the strategy explained above, the following quiz from this month’s TODAY’S BRIDE  may assist you in figuring out who is your triangle and who is your star.

How do you know them?

  1. They’re a friend.
  2. They’re a colleague.
  3. I don’t really…my mom does.

When was the last time you spoke?.

  1. Last week
  2. Within the last few months
  3. Good question

Have they met your fiance?

  1. Yes, many times.
  2. I think once or twice
  3. Not yet

Were on their wedding guest list (or were you in the wedding)?

  1. I was in the wedding party.
  2. Yes
  3. No

Would you invite them over for dinner?

  1. Sure, why not
  2. Yes, but I would make something quick to eat
  3. If I was forced

Do you talk about your wedding a lot in front of this person?

  1. They’ve heard almost every detail.
  2. They’ve overheard me talking about it in the office or on Facebook
  3. They might not even know I’m engaged.

Imagine your wedding without this person. Which statement best describes it?

  1. It won’t be nearly as fun
  2. I’ll feel guilty all night
  3. Thank goodness, I won’t have to avoid him/her

Will you talk to this person 5 years from now?

  1. Yes, probably.
  2. I’m not really sure.
  3. Most likely not

Key if your answers are mostly:

  • 1’s then that guest should receive a star
  • 2’s then that guest should receive a triangle
  • 3’s why are you wondering if they should receive an invitation?

Deciding whether or not to invite children and who should get a plus-one can be sticky subjects. Check out our upcoming blogs as we continue discussing what you need to know about guests.  If you would like more information or would like to talk, our initial consultations are complimentary.  Call us at 216-672-5451 to schedule your consultation today!

Insurance for the Bride: A Diamond Ring

The following article about the tradition of giving a diamond engagement ring by M. Wyzanski was shared with me by Malky Okowita caught my attention.  I just love the history of traditions and here is one you might not know.

Insurance for the Bride

The Diamond Ring, ‘Symbol of Affection’ or ‘Collateral’?

They say diamonds are forever. So, when a man presents his bride-to-be with a diamond engagement ring, it stands to reason that it’s representative of the promise inherent to an eternal relationship of bliss.  From a historical standpoint, there’s another facet of sparkle.  By the mid-1940s the engagement ring was seen as something more. It was a form of insurance, so to speak, for the bride. Should her groom desert her, she had something of worth to take with her.  And considering the pricey cost of any such rock embellishing ring, a groom would think more than once before walking away from his commitment.

Today, just as in years gone by, the phenomenon of broken engagements exists. According to statistics, however, contemporary women involved in a breached engagement, by and large, return the jewelry they receive. For those that go on to actually tie the knot of marriage, obtaining a conventional form of insurance coverage for the diamond engagement ring guarantees protection in the event of an expensive loss.

Insuring Your Diamond Ring

Although a standard NJ Homeowners Insurance, including typical NJ Renters insurance, embraces the articles in your home, it has limited value.  A costly item like a diamond ring needs extended coverage. Known as scheduled personal property coverage, this addendum to your homeowners or renters insurance escalates the typical limits on your standard plan allowing your ring coverage for maximum appraised worth.

Now that you have your ring and the insurance to cover it.  Are you ready to start planning?   CONTACT US